The Joy Challenge: Day 4
Welcome to day 4 of the Joy Challenge! Grab a cup of coffee - iced is my favorite - and join me!
The fourth good gift from the Lord we can find joy in is friendship. Now, I'm not that person who is saying, "You're not ready for a relationship right now so you should go invest in friendship with other girls." I've seriously been told that before.
I'm saying that friendship can be one of the most comforting and encouraging gifts during the season of singleness. There is something so wonderful about knowing you're not alone, you're not crazy, and someone understands exactly what you're going through. And you don't have to limit your friendship to single girls- seek out other married women, both your age and older...whoever you feel would be uplifting and encouraging to you. Yes, pour into other girls but make sure you find other girls to pour into you.
I must also mention friendship with boys. Please have friendship with the male portion of the population! But also realize that these friendship should stay on the surface until it's clear the guy had interest in you. I strongly advise against having close friendships with guys who clearly aren't interested in dating you or who you aren't interested in dating. Becoming emotionally close to the opposite gender can become incredibly confusing, especially for the girl. And it can confuse other guys watching from a distance: "Is she with him, is she available...?" I've observed this in my own experience and in my observation of others: keep close friendships only for other girls and boyfriends. All others should be kept on the surface level.
Jot down one girl you would like to become better friends with and plan coffee or lunch sometime in the next month.
Extra credit: Get a group of girls (and guys) together to do something, like seeing a movie or concert, going on a hike or to a fair, or starting a book club.
Much love, Maegan